Parenting without punishment Andrew Gaines writes again with this link to Norm Lee’s web site Parenting Without Punishing. Only skimmed it so far, but I see it addresses many of the questions I have in mind.
It conflates, though, punishment with corporal punishment. This does have the virtue of focusing on the cycle of violence and abuse that most revolts us.
On the other hand, while Lee disavows any control over his children’s behaviour except in matters of health and safety, he writes of ‘negative consequences’ and ‘withdrawal of privileges’ as if they were not punishments. They are, even if used only in matters of health and safety.
‘Negative consequences’ and ‘withdrawal of privileges’ are corrections, and assertions of parental authority, by punishment. It looks to me as if Lee is actually advocating parenting without corporal punishment.
The US constitution famously forbids “cruel and unusual” punishment. There are many ways to frighten a child into obedience without laying a hand on it. Over breakfast yesterday Miki recalled non-physical punishments that brought tears to her eyes as an adult. The constitution has it right: cruelty is the issue.
I have it that Lee agrees with me. It is possible to punish — ‘negative consequences’ and ‘withdrawal of privileges’ — without being cruel.
His reference to training dogs is apposite. We are born as animals with the potential for humanity. Much of being human is learned. Punishment is demonstrably effective in training animals. An argument against cruelty is not an argument against punishment.
On the other hand, in the world as we find it, perhaps most adults cannot be trusted to correct without cruelty, and the best we can do is forbid ever striking a child. Under threat of punishment.
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